Wendelien van der Schaar

Wendelien van der Schaar

Fellow

Current Country

Netherlands 🇳🇱

Current City

Rotterdam

Intuition

Cultivating inner knowing

A question currently animating me about the inner life/spirit is:

How can the Japanese culture of mindfulness teach me how to stay grounded in my own body?

December 29, 2025

A question currently animating me about the outer world/universe/multiverse is:

How can the sense of community be fostered again?

December 29, 2025

The practices I’m finding most helpful at the moment are:

Time in Nature,Creating Music/Art

December 29, 2025

A moment I noticed my inner light kindled this month was:

During my retreat, when suddenly I felt like I got myself all figured out. When all kinds of old memories good and bad came up and it all unfolded in front of me; I suddenly understood parts of myself I had always been confused about.

December 29, 2025

A moment I noticed my inner light dwindled this month was:

Being reminded of my fear of fireworks (there are many in the wintermonths here), and feeling helpless. I haven't fully understood yet why I'm so afraid of its sounds, because it's not the effects that scare me. I was walking my dog feeling very stressed, afraid and silly.

December 29, 2025

Courage

Aligning action

Assumptions I'm examining right now are:

Time/Attention

December 29, 2025

I originally assumed:

I used to think sitting at home was a waste of time and I should always be doing something.

December 29, 2025

These assumptions are changing:

Now I sense spending time with family is one of the most valuable things I can do. And giving myself space to sort things out, do things I need to do and be more present wherever I am instead of always longing for something better is sooo important!!

December 29, 2025

A moment I stepped out of my comfort zone this month was:

Spending one week by myself in nature as my digital detox - it was sooo valuable!

December 29, 2025

Compassion

Engaged Empathy

Something that is helping me build trusting relationships here is:

The encouragement for fellows to host meetings by themselves :)

December 29, 2025

Digital Detox Retreat

Number of days I've gone without technology

Number of days I've gone without technology

7

Being intentionally away from technology and distractions has taught me:

To be so much more connected to myself, through realising how certain experiences in the past have shaped me to who I am now. To feel detached from technology without this restless feeling of boredom. To, for the first time, feel fully content with just myself and nothing else.

December 29, 2025

Gratitude

Peers I'm grateful for:

Douglas Teixeira de Queiroz Santos

Another thanks to you because you deserve it Doug!! I want to thank you for being immediately so excited when I asked you to plan a meeting together and look forward to planning it further!!

December 29, 2025

Lexi Bennett-Williams

Lexiii! I loved the times we were put in a breakout room together and I can’t wait to have more time to talk over a call! Thanks for being such a good conversation partner and I’m excited to get to know you better!

November 30, 2025

Douglas Teixeira de Queiroz Santos

Doug, thanks for being amazing to talk to! Some time ago we had a few meetings which I loved, and recently you took the initiative again to plan another. Although we still need to have this one, I've loved chatting with you in breakouts! Thanksthanksthanks <3

October 31, 2025

Kashimani Simasiku

Thanks for reaching out to me to have a call that turned out to be way greater than I could’ve anticipated!! You’ve not only helped me with my current struggles but also made me laugh with tears, can’t wait to catch up again! :)

September 27, 2025

John Makuei Bath Madut

I want to thank you for your insights you’ve shared in the meetings, because I think your point of view is so interesting and your words have really put me to think! You were the one to stand out for me with the things you said, I remember such interesting thoughts you shared

August 31, 2025

Lizzy Leone

Thank you so much for reminding everyone about every meeting and also reminding me personally about lists of things I still need to do in Circle - this has helped me a lot because otherwise I fear I would definitely have forgotten some important things!! Thanks Liz!

July 31, 2025

Peers who have expressed gratitude for me:

Kashimani Simasiku

Thank you for always making time to have funny conversations about meat, parties, and Halloween. I really appreciate the time we have to get to know each other.

November 1, 2025

Lexi Bennett-Williams

Thank you for sharing in the group sessions and for a couple conversations we’ve had!

July 30, 2025

Magical Moments

Light-kindling moments

Light-kindling moments

Feeling at home in Granada

Dec 8, 2025

When I found a guy playing the guitar for his friends in the most beautiful sunset spot and talked to them for a while. He asked me what kind of songs I listen to (for him to play) and when I told him about the song my brother always plays - that always makes me feel at home - and he happened to know it completely + lyrics (see video)!!

Sunset walk

Sep 18, 2025

Nothing crazy, just connecting to my host family mom on a beautiful sunset walk with the dog :)

Connecting with locals over another beautiful hike!

Nov 26, 2025

After the first hike I did with the 3 spanish people, we immediately planned another one for a week later. At the end, we went to a bit of a secret viewpoint for the sunset and it was absolutely stunning. I felt so deeply happy and really connected with people I only saw twice!! So so thankful!!

Facing the storm!

Oct 26, 2025

Although the weather is lovely here 90% of the time, it was absolutely terrible yesterday. It was raining a looott, the coldest since I’ve been here and even very windy. However, to celebrate my host family mom’s birthday, we still went out to explore a beautiful place of the island I hadn’t seen yet. We took some umbrellas and had a walk through the city in pouring rain, and somehow (even though I hate rain), I felt so happy! A small reminder not to let external forces determine how I feel too much :)